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An Ex-pat Thanksgiving

30 November, 2008 (05:14) | Living in Europe | By: admin

I’ve been back home here in Barcelona for a couple weeks now. It was strange an surreal to return here with the grief at having lost a dear one. After about 10 days of non productive depression I began creating a social calendar again and forced myself to bike around the city a bit. Again, Barcelona is a great healer. I am always enriched by chance encounters or the discovery of a new hidden spot that is sunny and quiet. I always ride around with my tek pack, a leather “marsupial” pouch, a pricey one I bought in Florence recently, one that holds my NAGRA audio recorder in one pouch, my digital camera fits perfectly in another, and it has a special holder for my cell phone, plus a zipper in the back for keys, lipstick, emergency 20 euros. I’m ready to document anything that catches my eyes and or ears. I feel like a sound design gypsy when I tool around the city.


A few days ago my ears brought me to a corner of Ciutadella park that is green, hidden by trees and ends at a fence, on the other side of which are zoo animals making wonderful sounds. Wow! I noticed the time was about 2:30 so they must feed the donkeys and waterbuffalo I saw on the other side of the fence at around 2. Next time I’ll try to get there earlier to record the sound of the braying and cowing of the soon to be fed animals.

An Expat THANKSGIVING 2008

Today was Thanksgiving in USA but not a holiday here in Spain. Irregardless, we invited neighbors and friends over for turkey and mashed potatos and yams.

When Mark picked up our turkey (we pre-ordered from the butcher) there was a homeless guy trying to scrape up enough change to get some gizzards to feed his family with. He tried to sell Mark a bag of kleenex. Instead Mark bought him the biggest chicken the butcher had.

Somehow that random act of kindness must have basted our turkey, because with no guide but the internet Mark improvised a stuffing with bread croutons and sliced catalan sausages and threw the turkey in, with none of the traditional basting et al one reads one should traditionally do.

3 hours later the turkey came out a moist and perfectly cooked 5 kilo bird (about 12 pounds). About 10 friends managed to make time to come celebrate, only one of whom was actually American but had been living in Barcelona for 18 years. Mark made mashed potatoes and yams as well. The meal was a big success and possibly one of the most traditionally happy Thanksgivings I’ve celebrated. Our longtime Catalan friend here, Cristina, had NEVER eaten turkey before. She says maybe she’s had sliced turkey before, like from the supermarket, but never has she eaten a real turkey. Our other friends, who brought panettone, had to go back and open up their computer repair shop around the corner at 4, but they kept their customers waiting a half hour because it would be rude to leave before dessert. Yum! Desert was great and we got them out the door by 4:30.

By 8 o’clock it was just Cristina and also our American neighbor still hanging out. Our neighbor dashed out to the store and returned with some ice cream. We ended the days feast with yummy ice cream. Maybe its not a normally celebrated holiday here, but this is our second year making a turkey bought by the local butcher. We are thankful that our crazy vision to move here is panning out as we hoped. We are thankful that with the latest historic Obama election win we can once again be proud of being from the United States of America.

God Bless America

28 November, 2008 (07:13) | Living in Europe | By: admin

I happened to at home in USA this historic election. My reasons for being there were tragic, and I won’t go into that. However, despite the grief of my immediate family over the unexpected loss of our virile and powerful patriarch, we were all watching the elections, daring to hope our votes for Obama would count. When they announced the results early, (unprecedented in my lifetime), my whole family screamed out in glee for Obama America, in unison with our whole city and indeed the rest of the United States. Unbelievable! Obama won, and by a landslide! Finally I could quit being ashamed of being an American citizen! Only expats living abroad for over 10 years can understand the intense feeling of relief and pride that overtook me at the news of Obama and optimism sweeping to victory. I instantly called and woke Mark up. (it was about 5 am in Spain) to let him know Obama won. He thanks me profusely for that phone call. He went to watch CNN and witness the rapture in the faces of the American people and was also able to feel the victory in real time instead of replays the next day.

He wrote this letter to his dad (and thoughtfully sent me a copy) which really captures how we both feel/felt:

from Mark:
(I thought I would send this to you as well in case you want it for your next book)

Hi Pop-
Well it’s November 5th and I just want to share with you what I am feeling.

Since I’ve been living abroad (9 years now) I’ve had to secretly be ashamed of where I came from, of being American. It was one of the hardest things I’ve had to come to terms with. I had so many problems with how New Zealanders spoke about America and Americans, people would insult me to my face and not realize they were doing it.

When I went to Vietnam I saw the hate in the eyes of the border guards as I showed them my visa to go from Laos into North Vietnam and Hanoi. Had it been another time we would have been shooting at each other. When I visited the Hanoi Hilton I was very moved by the ghosts that seemed to still inhabit the place, ghosts of our American soldiers.

Then we made our way South to Saigon, once we crossed what used to be the DMZ the attitude of the people seemed to change and we got more smiles than glares. When in Saigon I went to the War Museum on my own. They had two sides, the American side and the Vietnamese side. The photos of the atrocities that were commited on both sides were horrendous. They had their monsters on the Viet Cong side and we most definitely had ours on our side. To think how close I was to being involved in that war.

Leaving the museum I was riding home in the front of a rickshaw and I had a complete breakdown. Not just a sadness but a shift in my core beliefs. The invicible and always-on-the-side-of-right America that I grew up believing in seemed to vanish. It was like my home disappeared. I was left in tears and extremely confused.

We went on to Cambodia and saw the damage that our secret war indirectly caused by empowering the Kmer Rouge. A generation of people are missing, there only seemed to be old people and young people. Very few men my age. We walked on the bones of dead in the Killing Fields. When it rains the bones rise to the surface of the ground still shrouded in their tattered clothing.
In the back of my mind there was the constant question “did we do this?”

As I kept traveling and living abroad and talked to people of all countries I always seemed to be ashamed and apologetic for how our country treated the rest of the world. The self-centeredness, the mindless greed, the religious bigotry that seemed to prevail, the notion that there was only one culture and only one correct way for everyone in the world to live, the culture of consumerism and shallow ideals and heavy handed self-righteousness.

Today is different. I woke up and the world was different. I cannot put into words how proud I am of our country. It has nothing to do with the two parties that were running. It has nothing to do with race.
It was the looks on faces of the American people as they listened to Barack Obama’s acceptance speech.
The look of profound hope. The look of a country that was healing. The tears of joy, the dancing and singing in the streets, the praying.

I had another shift in my core beliefs today Dad. I felt my heart heal, I felt my home come back into my heart.

God Bless America.

I will be planning a trip to see you guys early next year because I really miss you.

Love,
Mark

Buying into the Barcelona lifestyle

24 October, 2008 (02:48) | Living in Europe | By: admin

I’m back in Barcelona already. A weekend in the countryside goes by in a blur. A highlight moment was Mark and I played and sang Caminitos for Sara’s mother, Conchita. She was delighted. We have won her heart. She has beautiful blue eyes, surprisingly sharp eyes that takes in all details.

Back to the city, to tennis, to bicing. I have a favorite destination when I just go out for an easy ride, to a park I call Secret Turtle Park, or simply Parque Tortuga in Spanish. I found out recently the real name of the Park is Tuduri, which sounds like the word turtle, but I have no idea what it means.

This park is modest in size, but is perfectly balanced within itself, with a nice, fairly modern kids play area which is not easily visible from anywhere in the park, which is great. There’s a big, green, well kept dogs designated area, a maze, a coffee shop selling salads and bocadillos, and there’s a small lake (Llac Tuduri) with a lily pond full of snapping turtles and tadpoles and other pond inhabitants, like the big bird that lives here.

I make the acquaintance of a dapper 83 year old man at the park who reminds me of the recently deceased Paul Newman. I notice him across the lake, standing in his 3 piece suit with hat and cane. I am sitting on one of the many convenient wrought iron benches that adorn the lakeside. The benches are made for 2 or 3 people to sit on, but with my bike and so many other benches, no one ever joins me. I bask in the warm autumn sunlight. The man walks over to my side of the lake and stands in front of me gazing into the water. I am thinking to myself that this gentleman seems dignified but also nostalgic. When he turns my way our gazes connect so I smile and ask if he’d like to share the bench. He graciously accepts and sits on my bench. We have a conversation about the park. His name is Albino, “like the Pope who only reigned for 1 month” he says. “Albino’s claim to fame is he was the shortest reigning Pope. He died of a heart attack 2 weeks into being Pope,” and grins for effect. “I am named after this pope”.

I am delighted by this man. He has lived in this neighborhood for over 70 years, he says, and the Park is pretty much the same layout as when he was a boy. He always loved the lake (its really a pond) as a kid. He would catch tadpoles. In those days kids were allowed to go in the lake, there were no snapping turtles.
“I used to catch tadpoles as a kid too,” I told him. “I would bring the tadpoles home and much to my mother’s horror I would hatch them into little frogs, which had me running around the house with a ‘fly jar to catch flies in.”
He laughs, so I add,
“I would catch the flies dumb enough to get trapped on our numerous window panes. Once in my jar, I would shake the jar around until the fly was too stunned to fly. Then I would feed it to my frog.”

Albino lives a few blocks down the street. He has 2 daughters about my age and a 47 year old son “who is a banker,” he says proudly. His wife is alive but only leaves the house for shopping or visiting with her grandkids. “she doesn’t enjoy a nice walk to the park anymore” he says with a shrug. “But I do. It does me good to breathe in the fresh air, immerse myself in the green, look into the lake to see what critters are in view.”

He looks at me with growing appreciation. “You are a beautiful woman,” he says, not flirtatiously but appreciatively, like he is only now beginning to see me. He asks where I live, When I tell him in Gracia, that I like to ride my bike to that park for much the same reasons as he, we share a moment – 2 people in pursuit of the simple pleasures in life.

He says, “I like Gracia. After the war there was a very healthy nightlife in Gracia and also around La Rambla. In Gracia there were clubs which had live music play; jazz, honky tonk, tango…all the latest music trends. Casa Fuster, on Gran de Gracia was *the* place for live dance orchestras, who would come from as far away as Argentina and America. When I told Albino I was Italian he informed me that there were lots of great Italian live dance orchestras that would play at Casa Fuster, back in the day.

We sit a bit longer, exchanging pleasantries.
“My husband doesn’t like bicycles but we do play tennis together”.
Albino is pleased to hear we have chosen Barcelona for our home because we fell in love with the city and the people, not because we had to. “Not many people get to choose the country they live in” he says. “I do not blame you for choosing Barcelona. We all know she is the greatest enchantress.”

As I say goodbye I reiterate, “this conversation we have shared is exactly what I mean about loving this city. I return home honored and enriched by this exchange.”
He bows and kisses my hand, exactly the way a dapper octogenarian would in a storybook.

Later I am home and look up Pope Albino in WIkipedia and am informed that indeed there was a Pope who reigned under the name Juan Paul I but was born with the name Albino. He reigned from the 26th of August to the 28th September 1978.

from Wikipedia:

The first Pope to bear two names, John Paul I died 34 days after his election, making his the shortest pontificate since Leo XI’s in the April of 1605.

After Albino’s election, the mood appears to have been one of widespread optimism and John Paul established himself by taking the names of his two predecessors – John XXIII and Paul VI – to represent a combination of their qualities: one progressive, the other traditional. Eschewing the normally lavish coronation, John Paul quickly captured the media’s support with an unplanned press conference, but this hopeful mood ended with his sudden death, of a heart attack, a few weeks later; there had been no time to implement any policies. He was succeeded by John Paul II.

I am home now and realize just how lucky Mark and I are to be able to appreciate the pace and simplicity of life here without the limits of 80% of the inhabitants of Barcelona. The average person here is what they call “the milleuristas” making an average of one thousand euros a month. Its hard to believe. Even the highest paid jobs pay less in Spain than the same job in almost any other European country. While the global economic crisis grabs the headlines, our websites fluorish, have not to date reflected any lessening of income, in fact, as the dollar itself grows stronger it is like getting a raise for us, because we are an American Company. We can afford to pay our mortgage, travel, live well. We have befriended a lot of Catalàns, have worked our way into the fabric of life in this city. We fit well into the local art scene, are constantly inspired by life itself.